love letter writing 101

“In a love letter, the very failure of the writer to formulate his declarations in a clear and effective manner - his vacillations, the letter’s fragmentary nature, and so on - can in themselves be proof (perhaps are the necessary and only reliable proof) that the professed love is authentic: here, the very failure to deliver the message properly is the sign of its authenticity. Were the message to be delivered smoothly, it would only invite the suspicion that it is part of a calculated approach, or that the writer in fact loves himself, or the charm of his writing, more than he loves his beloved, that his love-object is effectively just s pretext for engaging in the narcissistically satisfying activity of writing.”